Solo
What is beautiful about learning where you stand with yourself is that you become so aware of the weaknesses and strengths that you have. You are able to expand on the details of your goals and achieve them in a multitude of ways.
This is why I say don't be afraid to be by yourself. As I stress this so much to people. You have to learn about yourself. Love yourself. Improve yourself. FIND yourself. That is the joy of being solo. Not longing for someone to complete you. See you complete yourself. Sure we are not perfect but we know how to hold our pieces together and when we can't there is Jehovah, God.
I have told so many people over the years to stop stressing over having someone. Stop thinking that you will be happier or more joyful with someone. No. You really cannot be. You have to learn these things with yourself. You are the ONLY one that can make yourself happy. You are the one that finds joy, laughter, sadness and above all contentment.
So what is contentment? A state of happiness and satisfaction. If you cannot find that on your own, how would you be able to find it with someone else? Seriously? You cannot love someone else while hating who you are. That is just messed up. Think about it. I realize we are the worst critics of ourselves. We chide ourselves. We punish ourselves. Sure self preservation and disciple is good to certain aspects but don't overdo it by saying you are not worthy of anything. Let me tell you, that is abuse.
Yes, we can be abusive to ourselves. It is definitely possible. Self harm is such a negative aspect of life and can,in the long run, damage us emotionally and mentally. And yes you can do it for a long time. However all that can change. BUT the first thing to do is find yourself. Learn about the good, bad and the ugly aspects of who you are. Make a list and start one by one eliminating or changing those characteristics you don't like within yourself.
In sorts you repent to yourself by forgiving. As much as that sounds like the hardest thing to do, try. Even pray and mediate over the patience you need for readjusting your mind, your life. This is why being solo and learning about yourself can help. Sure outside help is supreme but also know that relationships should not be a focus for you.
Getting a mindset of positive and joy will make the differences.
In my case I still have much to work on but I am content where I am. Sure there are times when companionship would be nice but I have accepted that I am happy being solo. Not in the aspect of loneliness. I am far from that. I have my faith, my family and myself to help me through. See I am a big research geek. I love to research subjects that can help me improve. And yes, I have my moments where nothing helps.
See I don't claim to be perfect. I know that I am not anywhere near that status. I am, however, very content in being a single woman trying to work her way back into Jehovah's arms.
So please learn about yourselves. Don't rely on another human to make you happy or joyful. Rely on your faith in Jehovah, God to pull you through those silent moments of loneliness.
Being alone is not a bad aspect because even if you are with someone, you can still be lonely. So be by yourself for a while. Learn about you. Love you. Grow. Build your goals and dreams. Find your faith and lean into that understanding. Be content and joyful with who you are.
All I can say is I am grateful that I am solo. How about you?
This is why I say don't be afraid to be by yourself. As I stress this so much to people. You have to learn about yourself. Love yourself. Improve yourself. FIND yourself. That is the joy of being solo. Not longing for someone to complete you. See you complete yourself. Sure we are not perfect but we know how to hold our pieces together and when we can't there is Jehovah, God.
I have told so many people over the years to stop stressing over having someone. Stop thinking that you will be happier or more joyful with someone. No. You really cannot be. You have to learn these things with yourself. You are the ONLY one that can make yourself happy. You are the one that finds joy, laughter, sadness and above all contentment.
So what is contentment? A state of happiness and satisfaction. If you cannot find that on your own, how would you be able to find it with someone else? Seriously? You cannot love someone else while hating who you are. That is just messed up. Think about it. I realize we are the worst critics of ourselves. We chide ourselves. We punish ourselves. Sure self preservation and disciple is good to certain aspects but don't overdo it by saying you are not worthy of anything. Let me tell you, that is abuse.
Yes, we can be abusive to ourselves. It is definitely possible. Self harm is such a negative aspect of life and can,in the long run, damage us emotionally and mentally. And yes you can do it for a long time. However all that can change. BUT the first thing to do is find yourself. Learn about the good, bad and the ugly aspects of who you are. Make a list and start one by one eliminating or changing those characteristics you don't like within yourself.
In sorts you repent to yourself by forgiving. As much as that sounds like the hardest thing to do, try. Even pray and mediate over the patience you need for readjusting your mind, your life. This is why being solo and learning about yourself can help. Sure outside help is supreme but also know that relationships should not be a focus for you.
Getting a mindset of positive and joy will make the differences.
In my case I still have much to work on but I am content where I am. Sure there are times when companionship would be nice but I have accepted that I am happy being solo. Not in the aspect of loneliness. I am far from that. I have my faith, my family and myself to help me through. See I am a big research geek. I love to research subjects that can help me improve. And yes, I have my moments where nothing helps.
See I don't claim to be perfect. I know that I am not anywhere near that status. I am, however, very content in being a single woman trying to work her way back into Jehovah's arms.
So please learn about yourselves. Don't rely on another human to make you happy or joyful. Rely on your faith in Jehovah, God to pull you through those silent moments of loneliness.
Being alone is not a bad aspect because even if you are with someone, you can still be lonely. So be by yourself for a while. Learn about you. Love you. Grow. Build your goals and dreams. Find your faith and lean into that understanding. Be content and joyful with who you are.
All I can say is I am grateful that I am solo. How about you?
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